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For my part, I've found this thread the most interesting, most insightful of all in the entire forum. (And "Dysfluency 1." the funniest.) I don't care about Asif's personality, if he has experienced extraordinary things. 

To show my respect to Asif I copy his summary from his blog.


People ask me often how I did it. How did I stop stuttering and start speaking.

I may not be typical, but then again I might just be.
I have a theory, that stutterers are "Golden Children".
We come into the world and are – from the start – different to most people.
We detect, early on, that the world is crazy.
We can make no sense of it.
We see adults as completely nuts. And other children as spiteful creatures that would do us harm.
We do not understand it at all, because we are not like that.

But what we are, as a group, is more sensitive, more vulnerable, than others.
Stress sets in. It builds up. We want to talk about this, but nobody understands. Nobody listens.
The need to communicate builds and builds, and we use more and more effort to try to be heard.
And to be understood.
And at some point the effort we put into trying to vocalize our needs causes our vocal cords to close.
Like a tin whistle will not whistle when blown too hard, our vocal cords are blown too hard and they stop vocalizing.

I may be wrong. Or at least only right about myself.
But consider the possibility that this may have happened to you.
You have learned, over a lifetime, that you stutter.
How in the world are you going to unlearn that?

How I did it is probably not possible for most people, but for those who are serious enough about speaking fluently, it may work for you.

You must discover yourself all over again.
Put yourself in an environment where you can do this. A seething city will not do.
Silence and solitude are necessary. A desert is ideal. Or a sunny, empty beach.
Teach yourself to meditate. This is easy. Do it alone. There is no such thing as meditating in a group, at least not for me. You must be alone.
Empty your mind and breathe.
Really breathe.
Become conscious of every breath. Do not force anything.
Sink into nothingness.

I recommend reading what must be one of the world's shortest books:
Tao Te Ching: the Stephen Mitchell translation.
Absorb it. Read it over and over. Live it. Become it.
And realize that effort used is effort wasted.
Give your vocal cords, and your entire mind and body a break.

Just stop.

After a week – or a month – of this, you will be very different from when you started.
And you will be able to speak.
It may not last, but you will know it can be done, and how it can be done, and you will be able to build on that.
A time will come when you simply forget about your desire to speak fluently, and that will be the moment that you can.

We want it too much. and that is the very thing that prevents us from getting it.
Until you understand that last sentence, you will not be fluent.

No guarantees on this: but understand: what you get out of it is directly proportional to what you put into it. Put everything you have into it, but do it without effort, or the desire for any result.

Just do it.


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