Reggeli nózizás az ágyban… 🙂
és egyéb bohóságok…
Muszáj. Ha azt akarom, hogy tizenévesen mgé szóba álljon velem – és hallgasson rám…
Össze kell nagyon ragadni most… 🙂
Here are 20 things you can start doing today to build a closer relationship with your child.
1. Snuggle with your child for five minutes when he wakes up.
2. Breakfast – asking what he is looking forward to today.
3. Instead of yelling at him to keep him moving through the morning routine, empower him with a chart with photos of him doing each task, and let him be „in charge” of himself while you just smile and point to the chart, asking what he needs to do next.
4. Write a love note to slip into her lunch box.
5. Skip together as you walk to the school bus, or sing happy songs in the car.
6. As you hug her goodbye, tell her you can’t wait to see her this afternoon and hear all about her day. Remember to say „Have fun!” instead of „Be good!”
7. During the day, find five minutes here and there to simply close your eyes and get centered. Try to get organized before you leave the office, so you can really leave your work behind and turn off your phone. In the evening, you’ll be able to give your family the best of you, not what’s left of you.
8. Turn off your phone and music when your child gets in the car with you at the end of the day, and listen to her most and least favorite parts of the day.
9. When your children get into a fight, keep your sense of humor, listen to both kids without taking sides, and help them work out a win/win solution.
10. When he has a meltdown because you cut his sandwich wrong, don’t make a new sandwich, but remind yourself that tantrums signal distress, not defiance. Stay close and compassionate so he feels safe enough to cry and empty all those upsets out of his emotional backpack. You’ll all have a much better evening.
11. Commiserate and encourage as you help her study for her spelling test.
12. Laugh at his jokes.
13. Spend fifteen minutes of special time with each child, just following her lead and pouring your love into her. This habit alone can transform your relationship with your child. When she wants to use the couch cushions to build a fort, say yes. Let her be the director and tell you what to do.
14. At dinner, ask an interesting question and give time to answer while everyone listens.
15. Have a pillow fight before bath time.
16. Empathize and keep your sense of humor when he doesn’t want to stop playing and get ready for bed, even while you insist.
17. Listen compassionately to her long story about troubles with girls in her class, without getting over-excited or jumping in to fix anything.
18. Notice that you’re getting frustrated about getting him to bed, and calm yourself down. Then, reconnect with him and use that warm connection to get him tucked in.
19. Enjoy reading the bedtime story. Savor the smell of your child’s hair and the warmth of her body. Send her off to sleep with a sense that all is right in her world.
20. Lie with each child for a few minutes in the dark, just snuggling companionably and telling him that you feel so lucky to be his parent.
Time-consuming? Sure. You can’t do everything every day with each child. But most of these practices don’t add much time to your day, they just make it go more smoothly. And when you create habits like these, kids cooperate more, fight less, and WANT to follow your guidance. So when you get to the teen years, your child will be open to your influence and might even ask your advice. And that’s better than money in the bank.
Szerző:
neked ilyen gondjaid vannak?- egy kedves pici gyereket hogy nem lehet szeretni.- igaz nekem nincs-de láttam már párat- ennél nagyobb gondod ne kegyen!- csak szeresd-ha kell segítek neked, ha nem vagy messze tőle,m…. a gyerek a legtisztább agyú és hálás, lelkes- minden ami bennünk nincs. üdv
Nem is az, hogy nem szereti, nem szerencsés a megfogalmazás, inkább a türelmetlenség… Az sokszor olyan, mintha ténylegesen a gyerek idegesítene, holott az idegesít, hogy másképp csinálja a dolgokat, lila gőze nincs még felelősségről, reggel tetvészkedik, ha gyorsan kéne kész lenni, akkor még inkább, ilyenek. Ebben segíthet ez a kis angol szöveg, hogy ezekből a gyerek és felnőtt közötti eltérésekből ne legyen kínoskodás meg balhé, sőt adott esetben mindkét fél profitáljon abból, hogy nem vagyunk egyformák (és közben el is készüljön reggel mindenki, és ne legyen hóttideg a család…). Nincs gyerekem, de nekem inkább ez jött le a magyar szövegből is meg az angolból is, attól függetlenül, hogy amarilla úgy fogalmaz, hogy szeretni kell a gyereket. Az is szeretés, hogy egyáltalán elfogadom, felfogom, hogy ő kicsoda, ilyen tiszteletféle.