Originally Posted by Violet, in "What has changed here?";
Perhaps, as i believe, stuttering is a fault in the brain, a fault in your brain, not your siblings brains, and it is triggered more by external factors - such as traumatic events- and even if you lived the ideal life you may still stutter, but perhaps not as much, perhaps you could have coped better, perhaps it would have been better in your child hood years? i don't believe having a bad mother causes stuttering, and neither does lying, being emotional, etc, etc.. but i think that in some people factors such as these can make it worse, whether for a short period of time or for the long run..
Like i was thinking about this.. and when i was two my mother had a still born and she became seriously depressed because she blamed herself and she later told me that the first day she didn’t cry was when she found out she was pregnant with my brother which was two years later.. I remember her being depressed, and her depression carried on for many years past her giving birth to my brother, it just improved, kinda... and i never felt close to her until i was in high school, when i think she finally completely recovered.. Its weird because i remember being closer to my father when i was very young.. but then from when i was about 12-16ish i absolutely hated him because i felt so hurt by him because of various crap.. and now i am indifferent to him but have recently become slightly closer to him...
And another example that just came to me: The Lying Post (Fluency 7)
Here is how i could sort of relate it to my (somewhat limited) experiences:
So in this sense i was lying to myself and was never able to address my stutter and attempt to fully improve because i wouldn’t let myself pause to think about it because at the time i knew i wasn’t strong enough to do so..
Here I can see why there is a 5/1 ratio between stuttering men and women. Women are much more capable of giving up their obstinacies, wrong learned strategies.
Some say women are more complicated and tend more to be psychologically problematic, because a lot more women go to therapies; but the truth is that men are such complex and problematic that they can't even go to therapy, to open their weakness; they rather force themself into tragic sufferers or other poses. Women are much more delicate, thus they are (despite of the popular image!) much much more practical, smart (!), teachable than men who are (despite of the popular image) much more passionate, emotion-driven, stubborn. We fight with our difficulties; women are thinking about how they could get rid of them, even if they have to sacrifice their "pride", "self-awareness" etc.
I called Violet a girl yesterday, but by all odds by tommorrow she'll be a woman.
I don't give her stutter 2-3 years.
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